I open this show talking about my then 4-year sober anniversary: clean from drugs and sober from alcohol. We then move into “The Passage to the Turbulent Thirties,” a chapter from Gail Sheehy’s book, “Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life.” For my part, I read a few original song lyrics I wrote in my thirties, which point to my consciousness in that decade of my life. Michele remembers her “Two Germans and a Black Girl” tour across America. And Dante talks about breaking out of a sheltered and protected background to explore and discover different aspects of himself in the decade of his thirties, as well as how he evolved beyond his personal pain. We then move into Michele’s “Thought of the Day” (Evolving the Emotional Psyche of a Man). Michele relates the powerful and poignant story of her mother’s passing, and her grandfather’s inability to reciprocate an emotional response after hearing from his daughter, “I love you.” All of that leads us into a robust discussion of how men, in general, mask their emotions because of how they are socialized. All of that leads us into a passionate discussion of father absence, as the root cause of many of the current “conditions” plaguing the Black family and larger community. We then follow with Dante’s “Word of the Week” (Endurance). In our third hour, I share some lyrics from a song I wrote, back in 1999, called “Alone.” Dwayne V. Wiggins Jr. follows that up with his “Inspired Moment” (Remaining Faithful). Pulling from Gail Sheehy’s book, “Passages,” we then begin to discuss archetypal “Men’s Life Patterns” – with an extended conversation about “The Never-Married Men” category. (The Robert Wesley Branch Show #195: Passages II: The Turbulent Thirties – originally broadcast on September 27, 2014.)
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